And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up. Meaghan O'Connell always felt totally alienated by the cutesy, sanctimonious, sentimental tone of most writing about motherhood. After getting accidentally pregnant in her twenties, she realized that the book she needed--a brutally honest, agenda-l Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like ...

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Title:And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready
Author:Meaghan O'Connell
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Number of Pages:240 pages pages

And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready Reviews

  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    Jul 15, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

  • Jess
    Jul 20, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

  • Emily
    Apr 17, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

  • Karen
    Jul 20, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

  • Cynthia Shannon
    Mar 23, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

  • Meaghan Johns
    Oct 20, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

  • Racheal
    Apr 09, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

  • Adrienne
    Jan 22, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

  • Rachel
    Aug 03, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...

    Compulsively readable, honest, & raw. Finished in one sitting and am glad to have read it. ...

    I will probably never be a mother, for reasons both in and out of my control. But I am fascinated by pregnancy, and regret that I will probably never get to experience it to term. I am interested in what it's like to feel like you are growing an alien, to be acutely aware that your bod...

  • VeganMedusa
    Jun 05, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

  • Bailey
    Apr 21, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

  • Katy
    Jun 21, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...

    Compulsively readable, honest, & raw. Finished in one sitting and am glad to have read it. ...

    I will probably never be a mother, for reasons both in and out of my control. But I am fascinated by pregnancy, and regret that I will probably never get to experience it to term. I am interested in what it's like to feel like you are growing an alien, to be acutely aware that your bod...

    I was very curious about how the author would come out at the end of this book ? would she regret having a child? Or would she start trying to get pregnant again right away? Would the stress of having an unplanned child tear her relationship apart? As a woman who doesn't have childre...

  • Madeleine
    May 20, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

  • Jessica Woodbury
    Sep 09, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

  • Amy
    Apr 30, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

  • Emily May
    Mar 20, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

  • Annie Hartnett
    Feb 12, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...

    Compulsively readable, honest, & raw. Finished in one sitting and am glad to have read it. ...

  • Kristin Boldon
    Jun 15, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

  • Susie | Novel Visits
    Apr 13, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

  • Brooke
    Jul 24, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...

    Compulsively readable, honest, & raw. Finished in one sitting and am glad to have read it. ...

    I will probably never be a mother, for reasons both in and out of my control. But I am fascinated by pregnancy, and regret that I will probably never get to experience it to term. I am interested in what it's like to feel like you are growing an alien, to be acutely aware that your bod...

    I was very curious about how the author would come out at the end of this book ? would she regret having a child? Or would she start trying to get pregnant again right away? Would the stress of having an unplanned child tear her relationship apart? As a woman who doesn't have childre...

    Parts of this book made me actually queasy... but that?s part of what made me glad to read it. No-holds-barred look at pregnancy and childbirth from someone close to my age... as someone still in the ?eventually? camp, this was enlightening. ...

  • Louise
    Jan 10, 2019

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

  • Rachel
    May 04, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

  • Lola
    Sep 06, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

  • Stephanie
    Aug 14, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

  • Liza Fireman
    Nov 15, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

  • Marily SV
    Jul 03, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

  • Jennifer
    Jul 01, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

  • Valentina
    Dec 12, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

  • Conor
    Sep 22, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...

    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...

    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...

  • Katie Benzel
    Jun 18, 2018

    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...

    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...

    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...

    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...

    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...

    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...

    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...

    Wow. I fell in love with this book since the first time I stumbled upon it. And now that I?ve read it? Well, I wished for some parts to be more detailed and for some to be less nauseating, but the overall experience was enlightening. Reading this book I felt a mixed sense of surprise...

    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...

    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...

    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...

    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...

    The real truth about motherhood. Motherhood is tough and I think most mothers are not ready for it when it happens. Meaghan O'Connell did reflect a lot of these motherhood far from perfect moments. Actually my main criticism is that I thought for half the book that her baby is going to...

    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...

    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...

    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...

    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...

    In the first 50 pages the author sounds like a 20 something teenager. Amidst the coffee bars, dinner parties and yoga classes O?Connell has some vague ideas about marriage and having a child in the future. Then this future comes too soon. She prepares for the birth by soaking up n...

    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...

    ?What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?? I?m so grateful for O?Connell?s honesty. ...

    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...

    So many mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I read it in about a day, but on the other hand, it was kind of a love to hate exercise. I nearly gave up near the beginning when the author, a 29 year old New Yorker, mentioned that she and her boyfriend were using the 'pull-o...

    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...

    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...